Wednesday, March 25, 2015

D Day - First transfer 25.3.15

So tomorrow is another D Day. D Day for a new episode in our Surrogacy journey.

After 8 months of Psychology assessments, Dr Reports and getting approval from the Patient Review Panel in VIC we are finally here. Finally we see if one of our 5 embies have the strength and tonicity to defrost, find that perfect spot in our Surrogate and Grow, Grow, Grow!

Our Surrogate or ‘Tummy Mummy’ happens to be my best friend Amee aka Wench. We have been friends for what feels like a lifetime to the both of us and 16 years is a long time in friendships. Ours is a different friendship, not the norm. We have seen each other through so much in life. All the usual stuff, the new relationships, the break ups, the b/f arguments, the all nighters, families, marriage, children, careers and the very difficult time of death to those close to us. In the period of 13 months we lost our Daughter Sophie and Amee lost her Husband Brett. Life can sure be hard for little reason at all.

So where did this all start? Amee and Brett had offered to help us have a family in 2008 when we lost Sophie. The offer was heartfelt and genuine on both their parts. It was an amazing offer and one that took a while to for me to take on especially since I blamed myself for everything. Losing your child is the most horrendous experience anyone can endure but we were also left without the ability to have more children.  All my fault.. my body did this.

When Brett died from a ‘One Punch’ as much as it hurt Amee to do it we needed to put it all on hold on this journey and we needed to look at other options. Amee and her kids were too important in our lives and they needed to heal without external pressures. I know for a while Amee hated that decision, and I say hate because she did. I guess Brett dying took so much from her and her kids this was another thing taken from her. But we had to let them recover from an awful tragedy.

So six years on Amee and her beautiful kids are in a much better place in life. She has an amazing family who support no matter what but especially her wonderful parents who moved to her city to help her get her life back on track. This help continues today and she would not be here helping us without them, so we thank them from the bottom of our hearts.

D-Day… I need to let go and stop stressing. Everything here on in is out of my control. So today instead of stressing we are saying PUPO!

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